While everyone is busy doing cute Christmas crafts, I’ve had something else on my mind. In mid-October, I lost my beloved Mother-in-Law, Mary. She was the Mother-in-Law every girl dreamed of having. I don’t think I had an argument with her in 20 years. It’s hard to imagine life without her now.
I spent her last few days caring for her at her home. It was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever had to do. If you’ve ever done in-home hospice care, you know what I mean.
My Father-in-Law had kidney stone surgery (he’s 90 years old) and the doctor wanted him to stay overnight at the hospital. However, I begged the doctor to let me take care of him at home to be with his wife in her final hours. Thankfully, I got him home just hours before my Mother-in-Law passed. It was heartbreaking to watch him say goodbye after sharing 65 years of marriage with her.
In the meantime, my husband got kidney stones and gout–losing his mom was just too much for him. And I ended up with pneumonia. So as soon as my husband was well, I checked myself into the Critical Care Unit at our local hospital for a few days. With the help of some IV steroids and antibiotics, I was back to normal in no time.
We had buried my Mother-in-Law at the cemetery up the street, so we can visit her gravesite often. Whenever I have a few extra minutes, I go and see her. It’s too soon to add her gravestone…but we can add flowers and such.
I went to purchase a grave blanket for her, but couldn’t bring myself to settle for standard plastic poinsettias and bright red florist bows—not to mention dropping $150 on them. My Mother-in-Law was too special. So I made my own 4 foot grave blanket using evergreens, berries, ornaments, pinecones and ribbons. My Mother-in-Law would have loved it. It’s classy like she was.